Eliminated Self-Hating Thoughts

 Self-Hating Thoughts pic

Self-Hating Thoughts
Image: lifehacker.com

A graduate of New York University, Herbert Tannenbaum, PhD divides his time between private practice and serving as the executive director of the Center for Effective Living. Over the course of his career, Herb Tannenbaum, PhD has taught various workshops and training courses, including Imago Relationship Therapy workshops. Dr. Tannenbaum has also given a presentation on self-hatred.

Self-hatred can be extremely detrimental, but it is a problem that you can fix. Make an effort to think of yourself as if you are talking to someone you care about. If you have self-hating thoughts, those thoughts are most likely much harsher than anything you would say to someone you love. Instead of focusing on the extreme thoughts, try thinking of what you would say to someone with the same traits as yourself. Further, you must recognize that any negative thoughts you do think about yourself are not true. Each time you have a negative thought, challenge it instead of accepting it. This forces you to present evidence that disproves your original thought and helps you see yourself more positively.

Beyond changing your thoughts, you can try reading about people you look up to. Everyone makes mistakes in life, but focusing on mistakes in your past breeds self-hatred. Reading about the mistakes made by one of your heroes helps you accept your own mistakes and move your focus more toward the present.


Celebrate the Children’s After School Enrichment Program

Celebrate the Children pic

Celebrate the Children
Image: celebratethechildren.org

Licensed psychologist Dr. Herbert “Herb” Tannenbaum earned his PhD from New York University and has been in private practice for more than four decades. Working with couples and individuals, he assists with a wide range of psychological issues. Herb Tannenbaum, PhD also helps others outside of the realm of mental health through his support of such charities as Celebrate the Children (CTC).

As part of its mission to serve children with communication and relational difficulties, Celebrate the Children maintains numerous academic programs in addition to its regular curriculum. One of these programs is the CTC after school program. This enrichment program is made available to students at the CTC school, as well as students and peers attending other schools in the area. It is designed to help students with special needs find peer support and expand their education beyond the school’s normal academic hours.

Most of the CTC after school enrichment program classes are offered in three semesters. The school’s first semester lasts from September through December, while its second and third semesters run from January through March and from March through June, respectively. Each semester hosts classes for a wide range of ages and classes are available from Monday through Thursday. The actual length of each class varies, as does the cost of tuition.

The Greatest Yankees Pitcher of All Time?

Mariano Rivera pic

Mariano Rivera
Image: m.mlb.com

A member of the American Academy of Psychotherapists, Herb Tannenbaum, Ph.D., established his private psychology practice in River Edge, New Jersey, more than 40 years ago. Away from his practice, Herb Tannenbaum, Ph.D., enjoys following New York Yankees baseball. Dr. Herb Tannenbaum is an especially big fan of New York’s retired stars Derek Jeter and Mariano Rivera.

Despite the franchise’s storied history of excellence, there are few New York Yankees pitchers who statistically can rival the cumulative impact of Mariano Rivera. Widely regarded as the greatest closing pitcher of all time, Rivera leads the franchise in wins above replacement value at 56.6, a great case for the pitcher’s long-term value.

At 2.21, Rivera maintains the second lowest earned run average (ERA) of any New York pitcher, trailing only Rich Gossage’s 2.14. It should be noted that Rivera pitched 1,283 innings compared to Gossage’s 533.

As a closer, Rivera does not rank particularly high on franchise lists, such as all-time wins. He does, however, lead all Yankees pitchers with 1.000 walks and hits per innings pitched rating.

Rivera ranks at or near the top of similar lists, such as hits allowed per nine innings, strikeouts per nine innings, and strikeouts to base on balls ratings. Rivera’s 0.70 ERA in the postseason is not only a Yankees record but the best mark in the history of professional baseball. The same can be said for Rivera’s 652 career saves.

Couples Therapy Objectives in Imago Relationship Therapy

Getting the Love You Want pic

Getting the Love You Want
Image: imagorelationships.org

Herb Tannenbaum, Ph.D., is the founder and Executive Director of the Center for Effective Living, located in River Edge, New Jersey. In addition, Dr. Herb Tannenbaum has obtained certification as an Imago therapist and has served as a faculty member at the Institute for Imago Relationship Therapy since 1997.

Imago is a therapy method that combines Western psychology, behavioral science, and spiritual doctrine to form a unique love relationship theory that can be applied to both individual and couples therapy.

By helping those seeking or struggling with an intimate relationship adjust their thought processes through an understanding of intimacy defenses and how humans select intimate partners, Imago teaches clients new skills to conquer unconscious and detrimental behavior and ultimately foster “mutual healing and maturation.”

When working with couples, Imago therapy strives to:
Create a safe space for couples to interact and connect
Assist with the development of communication skills that will lead to improved understanding between the parties involved
Help with the transformation of frustration–which can result in a power struggle–into positive understanding and response to the partner’s needs
Develop the inward recognition and acceptance of the qualities within one’s self that provoke hostile feelings and may, in turn, be projected onto one’s partner.

Imago therapy is intended to improve the couple’s relationship and leave them feeling fulfilled and more connected to one another.

Requirements for Psychoanalyst Membership with NAAP

National Accreditation Association of Psychoanalysis pic

National Accreditation Association of Psychoanalysis
Image: naap.org

A psychologist and counselor with more than four decades of experience, Herb Tannenbaum, Ph.D., founded the Center for Effective Living in 1981, where he primarily practices relationship therapy. Dr. Herb Tannenbaum is a member of numerous professional organizations, including the National Accreditation Association of Psychoanalysis (NAAP).

Established in 1972, NAAP is dedicated to the preservation and enhancement of the psychoanalysis profession and is responsible for detailing the standards and guidelines required of all psychoanalysts.

To become a member of NAAP, an individual must have graduated from an institution that has been accredited by the American Board for Accreditation in Psychoanalysis, or an unaccredited university or college that offers equivalent training.

The applicant must have completed, at minimum, a master’s degree program and possess 450 hours of theory and technique. Also required is 1,500 hours of clinical experience, which includes individual analysis alongside a certified professional, supervision by at least three superiors, and continuing clinical education training.

Students who have not yet completed the requirements outlined above can apply to become a candidate member until their education is complete.

Signs That You Might Be in a Toxic Relationship




For over 40 years, Herb Tannenbaum, PhD, has been practicing as a psychologist. Dr. Herb Tannenbaum serves as a certified Imago therapist, Executive Director of the Center for Effective Living, and a psychotherapist. In these roles, Herb Tannenbaum, PhD, provides psychotherapy on individual and couples bases and teaches several workshops and courses on relationship matters.

Toxic relationships can be extremely damaging to one’s sense of self and confidence. The effects of such a relationship can last for months or years after the relationship has ended. Following are just a few signs that you might be in a toxic relationship:

– You walk on eggshells: a toxic relationship is often characterized by an intensely controlling partner. The controlling partner may use either physical or emotional methods to keep you under their thumb, but the result is that you are scared to share your opinions or go against your partner. These circumstances can cause you to become worried that anything you say may anger your partner.

– You aren’t yourself: healthy relationships encourage you to be yourself. In contrast, toxic ones leave you feeling that you can’t. You may feel that you can’t act in certain ways and you may lose confidence. As the relationship continues, you may even find that the “new” you is unrecognizable–and your friends and family will likely also notice these changes.

– You’re always to blame: partners who are toxic often will not take the blame for the things that are wrong in your relationship. Instead, they may place the blame solely on your shoulders and spout empty apologies without actually owning up to anything. Over time, you may start internalizing this notion and come to believe that you are always at fault.

The Success of Couples Counseling and What to Expect

The Gottman Institute pic

The Gottman Institute
Image: gottman.com

New Jersey resident Dr. Herbert (Herb) Tannenbaum is a licensed psychologist practicing in New Jersey. A member of the American Institute for Psychotherapy, Dr. Herb Tannenbaum helps couples work through issues at his private practice.

Couples counseling serves as a valuable tool for building a solid relationship. In fact, up to 80 percent of marriages are more successful with the aid of a qualified therapist. However, according to Dr. Michael McNulty who trains couples counselors at The Gottman Institute, many partners do not seek guidance until they have dealt with an issue on their own for six years. The long wait adds to the growing pressure and stress of managing a relationship filled with turmoil.

Couples taking advantage of professional assistance learn problem-solving tools that can reduce conflict as well as open up lines of communication. Depending on the severity of the case, a therapist may suggest up to 12 sessions. Couples should expect to invest ample time with their counselor to achieve desired results. In many cases, clients do not recognize positive changes until they have completed their fifth session. Signs that therapy is working include the deliberate use of effective communication between partners to lessen the potential for argument.