Getting the Love You Want
Herb Tannenbaum, Ph.D., is the founder and Executive Director of the Center for Effective Living, located in River Edge, New Jersey. In addition, Dr. Herb Tannenbaum has obtained certification as an Imago therapist and has served as a faculty member at the Institute for Imago Relationship Therapy since 1997.
Imago is a therapy method that combines Western psychology, behavioral science, and spiritual doctrine to form a unique love relationship theory that can be applied to both individual and couples therapy.
By helping those seeking or struggling with an intimate relationship adjust their thought processes through an understanding of intimacy defenses and how humans select intimate partners, Imago teaches clients new skills to conquer unconscious and detrimental behavior and ultimately foster “mutual healing and maturation.”
When working with couples, Imago therapy strives to:
– Create a safe space for couples to interact and connect
– Assist with the development of communication skills that will lead to improved understanding between the parties involved
– Help with the transformation of frustration–which can result in a power struggle–into positive understanding and response to the partner’s needs
– Develop the inward recognition and acceptance of the qualities within one’s self that provoke hostile feelings and may, in turn, be projected onto one’s partner.
Imago therapy is intended to improve the couple’s relationship and leave them feeling fulfilled and more connected to one another.
National Accreditation Association of Psychoanalysis
A psychologist and counselor with more than four decades of experience, Herb Tannenbaum, Ph.D., founded the Center for Effective Living in 1981, where he primarily practices relationship therapy. Dr. Herb Tannenbaum is a member of numerous professional organizations, including the National Accreditation Association of Psychoanalysis (NAAP).
Established in 1972, NAAP is dedicated to the preservation and enhancement of the psychoanalysis profession and is responsible for detailing the standards and guidelines required of all psychoanalysts.
To become a member of NAAP, an individual must have graduated from an institution that has been accredited by the American Board for Accreditation in Psychoanalysis, or an unaccredited university or college that offers equivalent training.
The applicant must have completed, at minimum, a master’s degree program and possess 450 hours of theory and technique. Also required is 1,500 hours of clinical experience, which includes individual analysis alongside a certified professional, supervision by at least three superiors, and continuing clinical education training.
Students who have not yet completed the requirements outlined above can apply to become a candidate member until their education is complete.
For over 40 years, Herb Tannenbaum, PhD, has been practicing as a psychologist. Dr. Herb Tannenbaum serves as a certified Imago therapist, Executive Director of the Center for Effective Living, and a psychotherapist. In these roles, Herb Tannenbaum, PhD, provides psychotherapy on individual and couples bases and teaches several workshops and courses on relationship matters.
Toxic relationships can be extremely damaging to one’s sense of self and confidence. The effects of such a relationship can last for months or years after the relationship has ended. Following are just a few signs that you might be in a toxic relationship:
– You walk on eggshells: a toxic relationship is often characterized by an intensely controlling partner. The controlling partner may use either physical or emotional methods to keep you under their thumb, but the result is that you are scared to share your opinions or go against your partner. These circumstances can cause you to become worried that anything you say may anger your partner.
– You aren’t yourself: healthy relationships encourage you to be yourself. In contrast, toxic ones leave you feeling that you can’t. You may feel that you can’t act in certain ways and you may lose confidence. As the relationship continues, you may even find that the “new” you is unrecognizable–and your friends and family will likely also notice these changes.
– You’re always to blame: partners who are toxic often will not take the blame for the things that are wrong in your relationship. Instead, they may place the blame solely on your shoulders and spout empty apologies without actually owning up to anything. Over time, you may start internalizing this notion and come to believe that you are always at fault.
The Gottman Institute
New Jersey resident Dr. Herbert (Herb) Tannenbaum is a licensed psychologist practicing in New Jersey. A member of the American Institute for Psychotherapy, Dr. Herb Tannenbaum helps couples work through issues at his private practice.
Couples counseling serves as a valuable tool for building a solid relationship. In fact, up to 80 percent of marriages are more successful with the aid of a qualified therapist. However, according to Dr. Michael McNulty who trains couples counselors at The Gottman Institute, many partners do not seek guidance until they have dealt with an issue on their own for six years. The long wait adds to the growing pressure and stress of managing a relationship filled with turmoil.
Couples taking advantage of professional assistance learn problem-solving tools that can reduce conflict as well as open up lines of communication. Depending on the severity of the case, a therapist may suggest up to 12 sessions. Couples should expect to invest ample time with their counselor to achieve desired results. In many cases, clients do not recognize positive changes until they have completed their fifth session. Signs that therapy is working include the deliberate use of effective communication between partners to lessen the potential for argument.
Cornerback Leon Hall
Outside of his work as a psychologist, Dr. Herbert (Herb) Tannenbaum is an avid sports fan. Dr. Herb Tannenbaum particularly supports New York teams, such as the Giants.
The New York Giants signed cornerback Leon Hall during the off-season. The franchise made the announcement public at the beginning of August 2016. The player agreed to a one-year contract that potentially pays up to $2 million. His addition to the team is part of the Giants’ strategy to bring new talent to its defensive line, which is one of the team’s weaker points.
Leon Hall will join Janoris Jenins and Dominique Rodgers-Cromartie. A backup to rookie Eli Apple and a slot specialist, he may have the opportunity to take over the starting position if the first-round pick is unable to fulfill his duties. The Giants will determine if the change in starting positions is necessary to give Apple more time to acclimate to professional sports. Hall, on the other hand, has played in the NFL for nine years. He concluded his last season with two interceptions and nine blocked passes.
Yankees, 1996 World Series
For the last 41 years, psychologist Dr. Herbert (“Herb”) Tannenbaum has worked with individuals and couples at his private practice in River Edge, New Jersey. When not providing support as a psychologist, Dr. Herb Tannenbaum follows New York Yankees baseball. He has attended 20 consecutive opening day games and witnessed the team win the 1996 World Series in person.
While the New York Yankees have won a record 27 World Series titles, some can be considered more memorable than others. The 1996 win, for example, marked the team’s first championship in nearly two decades. It also signaled a New York baseball renaissance, with the Yankees going on to win four World Series titles in five seasons to go along with six World Series appearances over eight seasons.
The Yankees won 92 regular season games in 1996. After 3-1 and 4-1 series victories over the Texas Rangers and Baltimore Orioles, respectively, New York faced the 96 win Atlanta Braves in the World Series. Despite winning just four more regular season games, the Braves set a much less competitive tone in Yankee Stadium II, winning Game 1 by a score of 12-1. New York dropped a second home game 4-0 to fall down two games to none.
Atlanta returned home with a commanding series lead, at which point the Yankees went about making baseball history. New York scored a 5-2 victory in Game 3, an 8-6 extra innings win in Game 4 to even the series 2-2, and a narrow 1-0 win in Game 5 for a 3-2 series advantage. The Yankees scored the first home win of the series in Game 6, edging out the Braves by 3-2 and securing the franchise’s first championship since 1978.
A psychologist in private practice, Dr. Herbert (Herb) Tannenbaum is also the Executive Director of the Center for Effective Living. Through his private practice, Dr. Herb Tannenbaum provides couples therapy.
When communication in a relationship has turned negative or one partner is considering having an affair, it’s time to see a therapist. For the majority of those who seek help, couples therapy can improve the bonds between them and allow the relationship to progress into a healthy partnership. Research conducted by the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists showed that over 98 percent of individuals who were surveyed indicated that they received excellent couples therapy. Of those same individuals, 93 percent said they were able to learn effective techniques for improving their relationships.
Counseling is designed to help partners remember how they fell in love and why they wanted to be together in the beginning. Couples learn techniques to deal with negative emotions and cope when arguments arise.